Smitten
As we have now started with the commercial love month, I’m happy to post something related to it, also to show that the fast approaching Singles Awareness Day doesn’t necessarily have to have a bitter vibe about it.
On my holiday last month, I witnessed the kind of love and relationship I aspire to have, in the form of two couples.
The first is my aunt and my new “uncle”. I honestly have never seen her like that. She was always cool and a ton of fun to be around, but what used to be an environment filled with constant arguments, shouting, and quick tempers at home, has now been replaced by such an easy, joyful, and loving vibe.
The change in my aunt’s demeanor is very obvious. She just looks completely contented and happy with everything she does now, as opposed to my observation of her previous relationship with her ex husband. Theirs is a relationship that just brings out the best in each other, thus, making them seem younger (at heart :p).
I saw the huge difference between sticking to an OK relationship, and actually being in love with the person you’re with. And I also learned that just OK is not OK.
The second couple is very dear to my heart and I really look up to them.
On my 23rd birthday dinner, my flatmate and a new found friend (both not originally planning to attend) met. We played a game of kryptonites and weaknesses, and the rest is history. Haha. Shane and Hannah hit it off instantly and even asked us to leave them at Mirai lounge so they can continue talking and getting to know each other. One year later, Shane proposed, and last month, they sealed the deal, and tied the knot.
I couldn’t hold back the tears as the groom gave his speech. It was witty, sincere, and so obvious that he was crazy about his bride. Me being me, I tried to distract myself and tried not to cry for fear of my makeup running down my face and my falsies falling off, by doing a quick mental rhetorical analysis of Shane’s speech (purpose and analysis, content and tone, structure, delivery = spcm). But alas, I gave in when I saw one of our other friends crying. Lol
What struck me the most was how much pride this couple had in each other. Shane’s aunt, sister, and mother, came up to me to thank me “for bringing Hannah into our lives”, in their own words, even if I barely did anything but serve as an instrument to let the stars align that July 15th, 2010.
Hannah’s mum was also the same way, more funny with her choice of words. She told me, “I’m so glad Hannah went to your dinner and met Shane. Thank God she’s not with her ex anymore, who is-excuse my language-an asshole. The first time I met him, I took him around our farm to see the sheep, and the first thing we saw was a snake. That was the first sign right there!” LOL.
Two families, so proud that their children found each other, and so gladly welcomed each other as their own.
Our other ex flatmate, Emma, wanted to make a deal that we would not settle for anything less than Shane. You see, we agreed that Shane is the new adjective for our ideal man. Haha! But seriously, theirs is such a strong, mature relationship, that everyone would be blessed to have.
I would be the last person to be giving life and love advice, but essentially, it all boils down to wanting what you have a hundred percent. These two couples showed me that it pays off to know what you want, and in turn, to be proud of what you have. In contrary to the latest no label relationship trends and all its justifications, it doesn’t really count if you’re not sure of what it is.
Ika nga ni Kuya John Mayer, “Friends, lovers or nothing. There can only be one.”
And in Shane’s words, “It’s not official til it’s on Facebook.” Hahaha
Having examples such as these, makes me feel optimistic and more patient, if anything. It would be tempting to jump on the next guy I’m attracted to, or even go for the next super nice person I’m not that attracted to, but really, why should you not be able to set your own standards after seeing that it’s possible to wait it out and get everything you want eventually?
And who knew that a 2 week vacay down under, would extract such mushy insights from the likes of me? ;p
So, to those of you who are always in a hurry and are in love with love, sit back, relax, and take a chill pill. I wouldn’t know anything, but my wild guess is, if you’re lucky to end up like Hannah or my aunt, then it’s definitely worth the wait.
In the meantime, enjoy kissing a few frogs along the way, but please “tuck it eezeee” ;p
xoxo
